Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you…
Do you ever struggle with questions of faith—questions like, “Is Christianity really true?” or, “What difference does it make in my life to believe the resurrection really happened?” My guess is your grandchildren most certainly wrestle with questions like these. If you’re honest, so have you.
John Stonestreet, commentator on the Colson Center’s BreakPoint, recently talked about questions of faith and an event held by Nancy Fitzgerald, author and creator of the Anchorsaway worldview course. Nancy hosted the event for parents and their students who studied with her for a semester. While the students finished their final class, Nancy spoke with the parents.
She asked how many of them had questions about the validity of Christianity, questions that most of their students readily admitted having. No one responded. When she assured them it was okay to have questions, slowly hands began to go up.
One mom said, “I didn’t know we could ask questions; I was taught not to.” Another said, “I didn’t know there were answers to such questions. I have thought about that stuff but never knew anyone who could answer them.”
Think about it. There’s something terribly tragic when
7 POWERFUL WAYS TO BE A GRANDPARENT WHO MATTERS
If anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a millstone hung around his neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.
I hear comments like these about grandparents more often than I would like:
“I’d like to have a special relationship with my grandparents, but they’re so critical. I just don’t want to be around them.”
“My parents are constantly undermining my parenting and relationship with our kids. Why can’t they support us?”
“I really want my children to know my parents. They’ve done such a great job parenting themselves. But they are completely disconnected from their grandchildren, and that grieves me a lot.”
I want to be fair and say that I also hear plenty of amazing stories about grandparents enjoying incredible relationships with their adult children and their grandchildren. Their stories move me to be an even better grandparent myself. Still, there is a lot of pain going around out there.
At CGN we stress the importance of strong, healthy adult-child relationships in famlies. I believe most of you want to be effective, intentional grandparents who really do matter in the lives of both grown children and grandchildren. So, I’d like to offer seven powerful ways you can be a grandparent who matters—the kind that both your grown children and your grandchildren really want to be around. Here they are:
Do you believe grandparents matters—or should matter? Grandparents stand in a unique position of being the second most powerful potential spiritual influencers in a child’s life. Only parents possess a higher potential influence.
Since 1998 the Christian Grandparenting Network has worked to convince grandparents that they matter in the lives of their grandchildren. We call it intentionality—an intentional choice to live for the next generations that they may know, love and serve Christ. We have struggled over these years to make our voice known, and while God has allowed us to witness His grace and blessing in this calling, it has only been recently that we have seen an explosion of His favor in this arena.
I recently read about Adam LaRoche’s sudden decision to retire from Major League Baseball after he was informed by the Chicago White Sox that his 14-year-old son, Drake, could no longer accompany him to the club house every day. Adam walked away from $13 million he would have been guaranteed for the remainder of his salary contract.
The interesting thing to me about this story is the reactions of people all over the internet. While many supported his decision believing LaRoche did the right thing, the majority of people criticized him for the decision. Some believed he had no business taking his son to the clubhouse every day in the first place and should have simply followed their demands. After all, who else can take their son or daughter to work every day? After all, it’s stupid to throw away $13M and let down the team just so his son could join him everyday in the clubhouse. What would it hurt to hang on six months and then retire? That’s just plain weird.
LaRoche, on the other hand, doesn’t see it that way. While admitting that he was mad when Ken Williams, the team’s vice president, told him he could no longer bring his son to the team clubhouse, he also acknowledged that he “gets it” and doesn’t hold a grudge. He even said he “can’t blame him’ for the decision. He gets it.
It’s just that Adam LaRoche has a different, in fact, peculiar, perspective
This, then, is how you should pray: Our Father in heaven, hallowed by Your Name… (Matthew 6:9 NIV)
When was the last time you used the word hallow or hallowed? Probably not recently—unless you were reciting the Lord’s Prayer. It’s not exactly one of those words commonly used in our everyday conversations.
The word ‘hallowed’ actually comes from an Old English word with German roots. It is translated ‘hallowed’ because that is the English word we have closest to the actual original word in German—holyed. I think the New Living Translation captures the meaning well: "May your name be kept holy"… because it already is.
In a day when God’s Name is often trivialized or taken in vain, grandparents are often in a significant place of influence to teach another generation why it is important to keep His Name holy. There may few, if any, other influences that are doing it.
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