“I have been reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also.” (2 Tim. 1:5)

I am grateful for my Mom and mother’s everywhere who are deserving of a special day to express honor and praise for the amazing women they are. Another part of me, however, cringes at what Mother’s Day and Father’s Day have become (Grandparent’s Day is spared much of this because most people don’t even know there is such a day). 

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not opposed to a special day to honor those who play significant roles in our lives as individuals and a nation. In fact, I embrace it. I simply wonder if the purpose for such a day is being overshadowed. Here’s what I mean:

Two Observations

  1. Merchandising and profiteering: Merchants would lead us to believe it’s about the stuff we give rather than genuine expressions of love, honor and value they deserve. There’s nothing wrong with cards, flowers, candy, etc. But is it possible these have become feeble attempts to say ‘thank you’ with predictable, trite, and eulogistic drivel that is more about fulfilling our duty than truly honoring our moms (or Dads)? 
  2. It’s not always about Mom. The purpose often gets swallowed up by extraneous activities that are less about Mom, and more about the rest of us. Then, there’s the question of what do we do to honor them beyond Mother’s Day or birthdays?

Mothers and grandmothers, you deserve more! So, while our attempts to honor you on Mother’s Day may sometimes seem rather pathetic—not to minimize how nice flowers and cards, or taking you out to dinner at a nice restaurant may be—I think we can do better. May I suggest to all the sons and daughters whose mothers are still living that we make Mother’s Day a real tribute to Mom—not just an excuse to go out for dinner. Here’s a few suggestions…

Four Mother’s Day Suggestions

1. Gather any family that is available for dinner at your house. Those who are not mothers assume all responsibility for making dinner and cleaning up.

2. During or after dinner, all the sons and daughters take turns sharing a personal  “eulogy” extolling the qualities they most appreciate about “Mom” and “Grandma”. (Why do we wait till a person’s funeral to do this?) Husbands, this is a perfect opportunity for you to express your gratitude for the special qualities your wife has displayed as a mom to your children. If your mom and grandmother are long distance, write it out and send it to them, or call on the phone and tell them.

3. After the eulogizing, gather around the moms and grandmothers in your family and lay hands on each one as you then pray for them and speak a blessing over them. You may even want to write out a special blessing that all the family says together.

4. Make it a habit to praise and honor your Mom and Grandmother regularly, not just on Mother’s Day. 

Now, I don’t know about you, but I think that Mom and Grandma cherish such a day. And I think God would smile too. 

So, to you mothers and grandmothers out there, may God bless you and make you like Lois and Eunice!

GRANDPAUSE: “I regard no man as poor who has a godly mother.” –Abraham Lincoln

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